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Feb 08

Purposeful parenting and raising conscious children

What type of parent are you? 

A conscious parent, or an unconscious parent? If you are a conscious parent you are aware of yourself and what you are teaching, demonstrating and modeling for your family.  An unconscious parent wonders why their kids don’t listen, why their children’s behavior is an issue, they are stressed and yelling constantly.

What type of parent do you want to be?  Children learn from experiences.  What experience are you bringing to your children to learn and grow?

Are you a living and breathing example of what you want your kids to emulate?

When raising children you CAN NOT just talk the talk you must walk the walk.  Your children will duplicate what you DO, not what you SAY. 

Did you know that a girl’s self-esteem is directly related to her mother’s perception of herself? Psychologist recommends in order to fix an adolescents girl’s self-esteem… fix the moms.

We must think about parenting our children as a relationship.  We have to spend the time to connect, build trust and create a bond that will last a lifetime.  We must nurture our relationship with our children.  In order to create that bond you must be connected. 

That means when you are upset, short, tired, mad, angry they feel it and your energy will dictate how they feel and how they behave. If you are off, they will be as well.  

Also on the contrary, if you are calm, loving, respectful and caring in all your words and actions your children will be as well.

As a parent, I have continued to learn and educate myself on how to be a better parent.  I truly believe it is my job to parent my children to live without limits. 

After working in the wellness industry for the last 3 decades, and seeing clients and customers who have such strong limiting beliefs of what they are capable of.   I know that it is my responsibility to teach or what I call, “program” my children that they believe they are capable, confident and have the potential to do anything. 

Parenting is a learned skill. Love is not enough.

We are responsible for raising extraordinary, connected, caring and fulfilled children into empowered adults. 

Why do we think we can just wing it?  Stop winging and get learning.   

Here are some of my favorite books for parents.

How to multiply your baby’s intelligence by Glenn and Janet Doman

Learning begins at birth or earlier, say the authors, not when formal education begins at age six. They draw upon nearly a half a century of research and discovery to show that mothers are the world’s best teachers and that tiny children can learn virtually anything they are taught in an honest, factual and joyful way.

The authors emphasize that the process is a joyous one. As this wonderful book demonstrates, learning to read, to do mathematics, or gain knowledge of any subject is not a chore, for either mother or child. It is a source of fun, enjoyment, achievement, and pride.

This book contains illustrations of dot cards, word cards, and Bits of Intelligence®.

For course and program information, please contact www.IAHP.org . Love all their stuff and the course is a life changer.  Become a professional parent with their course.

 1 2 3 Magic, Dr. Tom Phelan

Addressing the task of disciplining children ages 2 through 12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking, this program offers easy-to-follow steps to immediately manage troublesome behavior with reason, patience, and compassion.

*Great guide for how to discipline*

The Whole Brain Child~Daniel J. Siegel M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD.

Your toddler throws a tantrum in the middle of a store. Your preschooler refuses to get dressed. Your fifth-grader sulks on the bench instead of playing on the field. Do children conspire to make their parents’ lives endlessly challenging? No-it’s just their developing brain calling the shots!

In this pioneering, practical book, Daniel J. Siegel, neuropsychiatrist and author of the bestselling book Mindsight, and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson demystify the meltdowns and aggravation, explaining the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. The “upstairs brain,” which makes decisions and balances emotions, is under construction until the mid-twenties. And especially in young children, the right brain and its emotions tend to rule over the logic of the left brain. No wonder kids can seem-and feel so out of control. By applying these discoveries to everyday parenting, you can turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and foster vital growth. Raise calmer, happier children using twelve key strategies, including

Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling, appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension.

Engage, Don’t Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening, instead of purely reacting.

Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state.

Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion, and help them understand that feelings come and go.

SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible.

Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success.

Complete with clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles, and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.

*I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this book!! All of their books are just awesome for parents to jump in to.*

http://www.drdansiegel.com/books/the_whole_brain_child/2/

 

The Conscious Parent- Shefali Tsabary, PhD

Conscious parenting is about becoming mindful of your behavior and engaging with your child as an individual.  Instead of being merely the receiver of the parents’ psychological and spiritual legacy, children function as ushers of the parents’ development. Parents unwittingly pass on an inheritance of psychological pain and emotional shallowness. To handle the behavior that results, traditional books on parenting abound with clever techniques for control and quick fixes for dysfunction. In Dr. Shefali Tsabary’s conscious approach to parenting, however, children serve as mirrors of their parents’ forgotten self. Those willing to look in the mirror have an opportunity to establish a relationship with their own inner state of wholeness. Once they find their way back to their essence, parents enter into communion with their children, shifting away from the traditional parent-to-child “know it all” approach and more towards a mutual parent-with-child relationship. The pillars of the parental ego crumble as the parents awaken to the ability of their children to transport them into a state of presence. 

If you want to be a great parent, get to work! Love, connect, play, care, listen, teach, and educate yourself on how to be better! xoxo~K

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